Most Kids/Teens with Autism I Talk to Don't Feel Loved (Parents - Please Read)
Hi Parents In Our Autism Community - This was HARD to write, yet important.
This is unbelievably sad for me to write. I’ll bet this is something your child deals with. In fact, I sort of dare you to have a chat with your child and find out.
Here’s what I’m seeing again and again and again - it’s heartbreaking and unnecessary –
- The kids and teens with Autism I work with do not feel loved by their parents. In fact they find it hard to feel loved at all.
- In their heads, they know they are loved but they aren’t feeling it in their hearts. They really aren’t.
Here is the issue for parents: Our kids with Autism are not seeing the difference between:
Who they are to their parents (beautiful, loved kids)
Vs
The choices they make & their behaviours & outbursts (which are up and down).
As parents, you know the difference, but your son or daughter doesn’t.
Prevent this heartbreak - Please help your child understand this about how you view your child:
What your child is NOT:
You are not your choices. You are not the words you said yesterday. You are not what the teacher at school says about you.
Instead - let's tell our kids what they ARE:
You are you. You are amazing. You have what it takes. You are very much loved regardless of whatever good or negative things you do. Nothing you can do will cause you to be more loved or less loved.
This is not a one-time conversation. This is a “many times before my child begins to believe it” conversation.
If you don’t think that this is an issue for your child, I would be pretty surprised. Almost all of the kids and teens I work with are dealing with this even though they won’t say it to their parents.
With every part of me, I’d wholeheartedly encourage you to have a chat with your child about this. Set an alarm on your phone - write it on your hand. Whatever it takes to remember.
That was hard to say. Let’s finish with something a little bit happier:
So many of our kids are learning new friendship skills - so they can feel loved at school by new friends they are making. So I've put it here for you exactly what your child will learn in our most popular courses for kids with Autism:
(Ages 8-12yo) “Secret Agent Society”
See the super-detailed skills your child learns here for you: www.amazingskills.com.au/SAS-Friendship-Skills-Explained
(Ages 13-25yo) “Peers For Teens/Young Adults” Social Skills Course
See the super-detailed skills your child learns here for you: www.amazingskills.com.au/peers-friendship-skills-explained
With you every step of the way,
Michael Clark
Amazing Skills
